A Life of Trauma and Tragedy (Possibly Triggering Content)

[Faith-and-Hope]

I believe your mind is releasing the trauma memories now that the fear of retribution is gone @Emelia8 .  Like the ex who is still in my life and being abusive from behind a legal team as I try to recover what is mine, and get him to let go of the hooks he has spread a cross

my life ongoing until that is achieved, coercive control abuse is as bad as any other ...... but there were good times as well.  That is all part of the gaslighting unfortunately, and the trauma-bonding they are so good at.

Be gentle on yourself and try not to let those hooks result in you continuing to hold to the self-confidence defeating talk he kept repeating at you, hoping that you would internalise it ..... recognise what is "his voice" in hour head and tell it that you release it to leave you alone now.    

Make a scrapbook of happy times if it helps you, and then keep only that.  Let all the rough stuff go progressively.  

uou can even say to yourself something like, " I acknowledge that that was said / done, but I now release it and all memories of it to go with my husband ...... they belong to him, not me."

I hope this helps.

💖🌷💞

[Eve7]

Hi @Emelia8 

Still thinking about you and really hope you cooked up a storm for yourself tonight!

Yes, I’m still attached to a remote ECG and today I had an echo, CT Scan and Spirometry so I’m feeling poked in every direction.

Lots of love for you 💕

[BlueBay]

Oh @Emelia8  Em I'm so sorry today is triggering you. Understanding the reasons. 
you are a good person. Friend to so many on here. 
love

your friend BB xxxooo

[outlander]

Sending lots of love @Emelia8 💙💙

[Anastasia]

How are you @Emelia8 ?

[Appleblossom]

@Emelia8 

Ah the messy complexity of memories with family.

New Holland Honeyeater

[Emelia8]

My husband loved his roses.  This afternoon I went and checked the circular rose bed to see if there were any I could cut and put in a vase in the house.  This is what I found.  Pretty isnt it?

Emelia

[Anastasia]

Beautiful colour @Emelia8 💐💕

[HenryX]

Hello @Emelia8 

Your photo has yet to pass "quarantine", but I will be looking for it to come through. Very pleased about the positive reference.

Edit: Just arrived and as @Anastasia said, beautiful colour and I could imagine the hint of its aroma. I also like the rich green of the leaves.

Best Wishes

@HenryX 

[NatureLover]

@Emelia8  you are not worthless or a nobody, you are very valuable.

---

@Emelia8 wrote:

It makes me wonder what I ever did wrong to bring out the bad in him.  Everyone else only saw good.  There must be something wrong with me.

---

My abusive father is charming to everyone outside the family. No-one would ever believe what he did /does to us...yet we have a lifetime of abuse and damage. You did nothing wrong.