Friends, Family & Carers Forum

[Shaz51]

Hello @CherryBomb, @Faith-and-Hope, @Decadian, @Shimmer, @Former-Member, @PeppiPatty, @NikNik, @Former-Member, @devotedmum, @Former-Member, @Former-Member, @Smc, @denial, @Former-Member, @Former-Member,

Here is  a question ???

When a Carer / wife / Husband / Partner is in need of  meds herself / himself

when my husband thinks i might need some meds myself, and said today I think you need something

what !!  ?

wow do you think sooo ?

why do you think I need some ?

[PeppiPatty]

Dear @Shaz51

You are with a man who unfortunately spending times in mental ill health and OTHER umet needs. 

One symtom is NO insight. He loves you and he may be either:

1. Mixing up your problems with your kidney with the problems that he has and because he love you so much, he is thinking  that is the right thing.

2. He is SO overwhelmed he is'nt thinking properly and he needs to sleep.

This is what I think at least. 

[Shaz51]

I think you are totally right on both comments  my special friend @PeppiPatty 

[PeppiPatty]

So, @Shaz51 Can you put him to bed? Often my husband needs to sleep all day and all night.......

[Shaz51]

Hello @Former-Member 

[Former-Member]

Hello @Shaz51!! 

[Former-Member]

hello @Shaz51 @PeppiPatty

is this the first time he has mentioned something like this to you?

if so as PeppiPatty mentioned he is aware of your physical issues and is perhaps seeing that you are struggling more with pain at moment? or something else?

perhaps just respond with "you say that you think i need something, i believe you, could you tell me a little bit more so that i can understand, if that is alright with you? I am keen to hear what you think'.

i learnt this from watching a u tube video suggested by darcy on this site.

worth a try you might get nothing out of it.

i think that they have real thoughts beneath the paranoid thoughts and sometimes it is hard to distinguish between the two.

i would be interested to know if you did get a response.

how thoughtful of him to be thinking of you. xx

[Shaz51]

Hello @Former-Member, @PeppiPatty, @Former-Member

Hello @CherryBomb, @Faith-and-Hope, @Decadian, @Shimmer,, @NikNik, @Darcy, @devotedmum, @Carer101, @TAWNEY, @Smc, @denial, @Sally07,

yes @Former-Member, It is the first time he has mentioned something like this to me

I asked hubby today @Former-Member before going to the doctor , he said with all my pysical problems and coping with his MI and putting up with him , I might need something to help me

was able to see the doctor today , it is my reflux playing up, I am on meds for it but the doctor gave me extra meds until they can have a look down my throat to my stomach

so thank you for all the hugs

now, just have to wait

[PeppiPatty]

Dearest @Shaz51 @Former-Member and @Former-Member

How are you?

I'm so impressed with your husband @Shaz51

[Shaz51]

Hello my special friend @PeppiPatty 

I'm so impressed with your husband --- tell me more what you are thinking my friend about my hubby xx

love to hear it so i can tell you more xx

how are you tonight ??