My special place

[Zoe7]

No need to be sorry Hon - thought you might be hsving dinner @Snowie.

I am the same - always the quiet one in the corner - never feel like what I have to say matters but I am beginning to turn that around a little in DBT.

[Snowie]

@Zoe7I am glad you are turning that around. I think you would have a lot to say that matters hun

[Zoe7]

I can 'talk' here but find it so much harder to actually talk-talk @Snowie I know why and that makes it so much harder to even think about talking anywhere - I have become more confident on here but that could disappear quite easily as well - some things are difficult under any circumstances 

I really am looking forward to hearing how you go tomorrow - and to be able to discuss some of the DBT stuff with you.

[Sans911]

Hey sister @Snowie

DBT groups are usually kept small so there's enough time for discussion. It'll probably feel overwhelming at first, hard to get to know others but remember many of them are in the same boat, and the content might initially feel complex and difficult. I'm here to help you if you need it with the DBT stuff. More than happy to go through understanding the skills or modules. You'll eventually feel more confident & comfortable with talking and contributing. And things will start making sense.

I can chat with you and @Zoe7 for a bit before I go out to my writers group in about an hour or can leave you two alone.

I had a bit of a tough day today. I'd really would like to curl up in a corner and sob my heart out, but the tears won't fkng flow.

[Zoe7]

Would love you to chat to us here @Sans911 - sorry you have had a tough day Hon - here if you want to unload a bit - if not then chatting about nothing (or something) is ok too. I have had a very quiet day - plenty of snuggles with Toby and my sister called in for a little while which was nice.

[Snowie]

@Zoe7chatting on here is so much easier then in real life

@Sans911you are always welcome hun and I love chatting to you. I'm sorry today has been a tough day. Well done for still going to your writers group even if you feel like curling up into a corner. I think if you did that Jasper would jump on you.

[Zoe7]

You are right - chatting on here IS so much easier than in real life @Snowie but it is the people here that make it so special also - that is harder to find IRL

[Sans911]

@Zoe7

@Snowie

@outlander

I had an appointment with a legal advisor this morning about pursuing a claim for unpaid rent and utilities from my ex house mate. Essentially my case is not very strong, I've not some things I should have and could be in a little telling off trouble myself, I don't know where she's living anymore or even if she is in the country, and she's possibly still unemployed.

Essentially it would be very stressful for me, a potentially long, drawn out legal case which I possibly stand to be no better off.

I feel so incredibly sad and defeated today. How do establish friendships when I feel I can no take people at face value or trust their word that they'll treat me respectfully.

So needing a corner to cry and a real, warm hug.

Going to my writer's group so I'll say goodnight @Zoe7

@Snowie

[Zoe7]

Check in with us when you return home if you are able to @Sans911 - what has happened for you today is very deflating but you have a shoulder(s) and many hugs here whenever you need them. 

[outlander]

sending lots of warm lil sis hugs @Sans911
sounds like a really tough day, here for you if you need

good luck at DBT tomorrow @Snowie itll be tough but i really hope you see the benefits of going after a little while.

@Zoe7