13-10-2015 01:54 PM
13-10-2015 01:54 PM
Ah yes the deliberate dragging of feet.
13-10-2015 11:07 PM
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13-10-2015 11:16 PM
13-10-2015 11:16 PM
Dear lj ... sometimes making a decision is just making it for a while ... so that the next phase can unfold ... even if it is a spontaneous "I'll do this" ... and live with it for a while and til you can make the next decision.
Recently i was teaching an older "normal" couple ... and we all laughed when I said that I was only just getting to the stage when I am not dropping words out .. or often at a loss for a word .... the joke was that nobody would notice if I got alzheimers.
point being ... stressed brains are tired but if you give away all your power then its not you taking charge ... and for our kids we do need to take charge ... not make everything perfect .. but be the bigger one with a bit more of an idea about life
I didnt have the support, education, money etc to "fight" .. and so we settled ... few things are ideal in this world ... go gently
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15-10-2015 10:22 PM
15-10-2015 10:22 PM
Dear @Former-Member,
I've been mostly listening quietly to your day to day messages. I'm so sorry you are going through this. If it helps even a tiny bit, I'm sending you hugs.
15-10-2015 10:27 PM
15-10-2015 10:27 PM
15-10-2015 10:49 PM
15-10-2015 10:49 PM
@Former-Member It's good that you are continuing to reach out and express what you are going through. I've never been in your situation, but was a child of domestic violence. I know how things can feel out of our control. Is it possible to write down some of the best scenarios or outcomes? Maybe just to remind yourself of the possibilities beyond the negative. How much sleep do you think you are getting per day? Feel free to answer or not to any of this. I'm really just giving you a brainstorm response. Is there anything we can do to help you with the decisions you need to make?
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