It's been awhile since I've replied but things haven't been great.
Mum has been drinking more and has had 2 falls where her face has been pretty bruised and scratched up.
Yesterday was her birthday. She went out and we shouted her Chinese for dinner but she found out a guy she has been sort of seeing is selling and leaving our town so today has been pretty horrible.
We were supposed to vote so we told her yesterday we would all go in at 9am which she agreed to. She came over drunk and had forgotten. She'd been drinking since the early hours.
I said I wasn't taking her in drunk and we would go in at 2. I asked her to please not drink anymore.
She came over at midday and had forgotten that conversation so I reminded her.
She came over at 2 and had kept drinking so we got in the car and didn't let her in and told her to find her own way.
She said "you always say I'm drunk. I just have a few drinks. I'm never drunk"
Meanwhile she's stumbling around and wasn't dressed properly.
We ended up doing some food shopping after because I didn't want to come home and deal with the guilt trips. She came over at 5:30 and asked if we could vote for her on the phone. She said she'd called a taxi to take her to the damn club but couldn't vote so ended up coming home... which makes no sense.
She ended up coming back and asked if we could do it online. We couldn't do either so she walked away and said "guess I'll pay a fine then". She'd also had more drinks by then so she's been on a 12 hour bender.
I'd like to think this will teach her a lesson but I'll probably end up paying the freaking fine anyway... I'll just take it out of the money I give her i guess.
I know she is bored and she is hurt but there was no way I was standing in line to vote with her while she's drunk... I gave her 2 chances.
We've just bought her a new smart tv as well and I really want to set it all up for her but I'm not going over there while she's hammered because I need to teach her how to use it as well.
I was hoping she could start streaming some shows to help with the boredom. She's not very good with technology so has been watching free to air so I don't blame her for being bored...
I still feel guilty though. And she won't learn from this. She'll just blame me.
She also keeps telling her friends that "you'd think you would be able to do what you want in your 70's but I still have to hide things from my daughter or I get in trouble". Tell them the whole story about how you start drinking at 5am. Not half of it and make me out to be someone who doesn't let you do anything or take you anywhere 😞
I'm just really over it... trying to remind myself I am not in the wrong here but I still feel terrible.
