Hey there @RobOz ,
I thought you were talking about me in your post! Yes, that's me (was me)... HDU or with a special. I spent years in and out of hospital.
I hear how hard it is for a carer/parent. I did not begin to improve until my early 30s. By that time, I felt like I'd left a trail of destruction behind me. I cut myself off my family, friends (if i had any remaining), and left the state to start elsewhere.
It was then that I realised the issue was ME. No matter where I went, I couldn't get away from myself. Only then did I begin to heal. It needed to come from me, because BPD recovery is hard hard work. It is going against anything one had ever imagined. It's about retraining the brain to think in more helpful ways.
I've had my fair share of BPD, life and errors. Yet now, I can only say I can't be better.
Feel free to join our BPD-ers and carers at Raising Awareness of BPD - Flipping the Script
You may also want to read Topic Tuesday // Supporting loved ones living with BPD // Tuesday 25th January, 7pm-8:30pm AEDT
BPD is painful, but it can also be magical. If one is able to navigate the storms, they will come out with rich experiences.
One thing I strongly recommend to BPD carers is to set your boundaries from the beginning. Be strong with those boundaries to protect yourself. At the same time, empower your daughter. Give her choices.
I hope you find connecting on the forums helpful. There is so little info out there for BPD carers....
