A Life of Trauma and Tragedy (Possibly Triggering Content)

[Former-Member]

Thinking of you @Emelia8 

Would it cause too much trouble with hubby if you organised some home help/care for him? I know that might sound stressful right now, but I do remember the huge relief when I did that when I was a full time carer. 
Having that support was "huge". 
I hope you don't mind me mentioning that. I don't want to cause more stress. 
🤗🥰🌺🌸🌷☕️

[Former-Member]

I do understand @Emelia8 

It was a very difficult decision for me to make, because the person I was caring for didn't want home care/help. 
But I was very unwell and not coping, so it was something I had to do. ❤️

[Anastasia]

Oh @Emelia8 

I missed out on the cuppa last night and Oreos!

I am so happy that dear @Former-Member @Snowie @Sans911 @Shaz51 were here to support you

(sorry I I missed tagging you I can't scroll back)

Please feel free to tag me. It can be difficult for me to scroll at night as my family/bf want my undivided attention so I just check on tags mostly and if not tagged then I miss most updates and I care about you very much so would like to be tagged. I saw you mention that you feel less important then others, that is so not the truth, you are important so please try to stop the negative talk as it is what your mind will believe.

My heart aches for you as I know when my father received his news he went straight to organising his affairs as he was convinced his days were numbered. 

Please know you are loved dear Em xox

Perhaps you can print this and put it on your mirror or somewhere you can see it.

 

[outlander]

@Emelia8 💙🧡

[BlueBay]

thats a great suggestion @Former-Member 

@Emelia8  i know this is really really difficult - but - have you thought of maybe your hubby having some respite or care.  Because right now you're priority is your health.  I know he is your hubby but you need surgery, treatment and respite as well.  It would take a huge load off your shoulders.  I'm surprised that your GP hasn't mentioned it.  

I know for me personally, when my MIL was with us and getting worse mentally and physically we had to make a choice of putting her into care (low). First it was respite for 3 weeks, then full time.  It was a huge gut wrenching decision but one now looking back, the best decision.  My health was deteriorating mentally so we had to make some firm choices.

I hope you don't mind my input, i am not trying to tell you what to do.  It's only a suggestion, becasue i care for you.

still thinking of you, and here for you @Emelia8  my friend

xxxooo

[Emelia8]

Thanks @Snowie @Former-Member @Anastasia @outlander @BlueBay 🌺😊💕

Thanks for the suggestions also about getting some additional help for hubby. I have organised last week for a referral for an OT to come and do an assessment of hubbys needs. I'm hoping that will happen within a couple of weeks. So that will be a help at least, to both him and me.

Last year when my Mum was so sick (dying) and I was trying to care for hubby here and also try to visit my Mum who was 7 hours drive away. I had spoken to the Dept of Veterans Affairs (for those of you who dont know ... my husband is a Vietnam Veteran) to find out just what services we could receive.

I can get a cleaner, someone to come in to help him daily, or put him into respite (short term) residential care. He is also entitled to have someone come in and stay with him if I need to be away overnight any time. So these services are available for him right now, only a phone call away. Unfortunately they like quite a bit of notice in advance. So that is the difficulty. But it is definitely something I feel I may need to action at some stage.

Although at this stage I dont know where surgery will take place, exactly what surgery will need to be undertaken, or how long I will need to be in. It could be anything from day surgery, a night in hospital, or maybe several nights. So I am not able to plan anything yet.

@Anastasia... I didnt tag anyone, not last night when I needed company, nor when I announced my biopsy results. So it wasnt that I missed tagging you. Actually I have not done an update at all for all to read. Perhaps I will do so later today. I know many (who may be interested) have not yet got my news from yesterday.

So many members have a lot going on too right now, and of course everyone cares about our beloved furbabies. I know I do. If something were to happen to my baby ... I would be completely devastated. And sadly I know my little dog is getting on age-wise. She is 12 already, so her day will come ... way too soon. No matter how old our furbabies get to ... we always want longer with them. So @Zoe7 ... my heart goes out to you with your news today about Cat.

Thank you ... all of you ... for caring about me, and showing it. It really does make a difference.

Emelia 🌺

[Anastasia]

I hear you @Emelia8 

[Snowie]

@Emelia8 hoping you are doing better today. You have been in my thoughts sweetheart.

Lots of love and hugs 💖💖

[outlander]

@Emelia8im hoping im on the right track but your anxiety seems to be a little better if you feel nore organised? Is that right?
I might have an idea for you for hubby as a 'in case of emergency' if you would like of course. Its something my nan started for herself for anyone caring for her (so we kept up with it for her) and i also done it for  pop for whenever i go away somewhere even overnight

[Zoe7]

@Emelia8