@john74 Sorry to hear about your situation John.

Birthdays, special days like Father's Day and other celebrations can be extremely hard.

I recall having to brace myself for those days (and find ways to not let the sadness creep too much inside me).

I'm a male in my 50s who years ago went through a difficult separation. I relate to some of the things you're experiencing.

I hear that you care about your children and granddaughter. I think it's wonderful that you reached out here. Every little bit can help and while it may not solve things in the immediate, when it comes to kids, I think it is the long-term game that matters the most.

Take care.