@Dimity 

Back issues are a real challenge. They are unlike other sources of pain, so many people have the view that because its not so easily quantifiable or visable. A sore arm, you can see someone carrying that, you can see them holding back, holding the arm gingerly etc. Sore leg, there is a limp but a sore back, its not something you can really avoid using, take pressure off in anyway, there is no real visable signs that your actually in pain for the most part. You might be hunched over a bit, walking slow etc. but people write that off. 

Im really sad for you that you are going through challenges with your back. Having my own issues, I feel for anyone with severe back pain. I have other chronic pain issues and there isnt anything that compares to chronic back pain. You cant be gentle, take the pressure off or anything like that, no matter what your doing, your engaging your back and its eventually going to hurt as a result. 

If you have muscular issues as a result of your pain, Tiger Balm is my go too for a heat rub type thing, its far better than anything else Ive used. It helped me a lot in the early days but as the muscles became more messed up it helped less, though I still use it for strained muscles, particularly in my neck which helps relieve headaches. Its also really good for headaches etc by rubbing on your temples.

If your GP isnt supporting you fully with your health issues, any but inparticular your back, really consider changing GP. Its so important that you are supported by your GP, they need to be on your side and understanding, especially when it comes to pain medication. 

If your on strong pain medication, request to see a pain specialist. There are lots of options, not just typical pain medication, some anti-depressants can assist in pain relief and so forth. There is also pain relief that lasts much longer than typical stuff that you would be prescribed by a GP. They all have pros and cons which is where a pain specialist is helpful. 

The other reason to have a good GP who is on your side is if you are going to suffer significantly long term and you are limited or restricted as to what you can now do. You might want to apply for a disability parking permit, very helpful to minimise the strain of shopping etc. You might also want to apply for NDIS, which I am in the process of doing, a good GP is the cornerstone of this process.

If I can provide any help or advise Im more than happy to do so, so many people find it hard to accept what people with back issues are going through, but those of us who are going through it understand and we should stick together and support one another.