From personal experience, very important to help and support kids who are dealing with grief @Appleblossom @tyme @Oaktree 

I started having abondonment fears and panic attacks when I was approx 11yo.  In my mid 40’s I saw first saw psychiatrist who explained was linked to not being able to/allowed to deal with the grief following sudden death of an uncle when I was 9yo

Death of 4 relatives, 3 very close, when I was 9 to 13 yo, each time being told/made to suppress my emotions