@Appleblossom wrote:
@chibam
About "nice" not being enough or fixing things, I certainly did not mean they should be rude or abusive, but fake nice plastered over communication in real life or online can be very offputting, about the genuineness of the person ... eg ... today I got an email that had hope you had a nice day plus emoji ... when I had told them I was physically sick ... Covid like .... I am not as patient about such stuff as I used to be ... oh thats just automatic ... or the way nice people talk ... no ... I do not think so ... mind you for a long time I was not sure what a nice person was, so I reserved judgment about whether it was fake or not ... but getting older and wiser ...
I do stuff like that.
I think I sort of get where your coming from, but for me, it would just feel wrong to send a letter or whatever that dwells on negative stuff, without making some sort of effort to inject some sort of cheerfulness into the situation - such as a hope for a nicer remainder to the day, or whatever.
It's like that old saying: "All it takes for evil to triumph is for good men to do nothing." I can't help but feel as if the same holds true for misery. Like, if nobody makes an effort to make the interaction more cheerful, we're all just going to keep feeling miserable.
Fully submitting to the darkness would just feel wrong. Like letting the terrorists win, you know?
I suspect that that's behind a lot of other peoples' cheerful send-offs as well.
I don't mean to sound argumentative, I'm just adding my 2 cents. I apologize if it comes off as argumentative.
