Hi @Lula I can totally relate to everything you just wrote. Even the reaching out to people and not hearing back. Sometimes there's a good reason, but sometimes you just never hear back, or you do only to get fobbed off again. It's so hard because it's hard not to take it personally. Which then makes it harder to try again. That was my problem for decades.
Keep asking on the FB page. Keep posting about yourself. Nothing to personal of course, just keep inviting someone to meet up for a chat. There may be lonely people reading, but just don't feel comfortable or mentally up to replying to you right now. If they keep reading you posts over time, it may give them the confidence or motivation to contact you. I don't think it says anything about you at all. So many people just seem wrapped up in their own little worlds these days. So it takes time to find someone who is willing to reach out and just meet a stranger for a chat. Even a couple of years ago, I would have never replied myself. I just would have been too scared to. To be fair, I probably still wouldn't if it was someone I didn't know. I just wouldn't feel confident enough to reply. So try not to take it personally (easier said than done I know) and don't let it stop you from continuing to try. Just finding one person to spend some time with will make a massive difference.
If you're not eating enough then that would probably explain the lack of energy. n top of the low mood, it just makes it even harder. So maybe you could try to go to a local cafe and treat yourself to something nice a few times a week. You may even meet someone there to have a bit of a chat with. Just a thought.
That loneliness forum I was on, I joined it about 14 years ago, and was on for about 3 years. I was on so much, the owner made me an admin. Part of that job was to approve new members. There were a lot of suspicious people trying to join. Some of them were obvious scammers, but some always slipped through. So another part ofthe job was to keep an eye on things and if there were any suspicious posts then they would be removed and the account banned. It was the same if people were breaking any of the rules. We were very vigilant about that in order to keep the forum safe, because people would come and and share their vulnerability with people which is hard for most of us, so it was important to keep it safe by removing anyone that made it feel less safe. This was a international forum with people from all over the world so it took a bit of time but such important work. The admins/moderators here would be doing very similar hard work keeping this forum safe for the members here. They would so a lot of work behind the scenes, and in front, to monitor the forum and keep it as safe as possible.
